That’s what came to mind after further reflection. Maybe the whole birthday thing isn’t about me at all.

I don’t often post twice in one day anymore, but today I’m breaking that “rule” to share a thought that a wise family member thoughtfully shared with me today, after reading my earlier post about how I hate my birthday:

A thought for you:

Birthdays are a reminder that you are alive; alive to be who you are, who you want to be, who you want to become. Perhaps it’s being a mom, or a wife, or a daughter, or a girlfriend, or just a friend to someone who needs a friend.  Maybe its all of the above.

We don’t often think of ourselves on a day-to-day basis, but we are often times thought of by someone else on a day-to-day basis. Parents wishing children happy birthday are just as much a reminder to themselves of that special day however many years ago that they were blessed.  When we are  so very young, the anticipation of the cake and being the “Birthday Girl” as someone so joyfully told everyone not too long ago, is important and exciting.  As we grow and life takes over, the day becomes not so exciting – – we still have to get up and go to work, clean the house, cook the meal, take care of the kids — it becomes just another day so to speak.

Sometimes people saying happy birthday to us is just a reminder that we still have to do all the other things — we can’t just be “The Birthday Girl” anymore.  We are so much more. But being so much more can be rewarding itself too.  Take the time to reflect on your accomplishments — you are:  A Daughter, A Graduate, A Wife, A Mom, A Writer.

Know that when people say Happy Birthday — they are not really reminding you that you are another year older, they are saying how glad they are to have had you in their life for another year.

Because so often I don’t journey through these thought processes alone, I wanted to share this beautiful sentiment and invite you to chime in, as always, with your own wisdom.

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