A Mary Moment Monday post
The toughest critic many of us face as wives, mothers, and women in general are fellow females. We are our own worst enemies.
Even so, I can’t think of anyone I’d rather call on a dreary morning than the older mom-friend I have who always insists I come over. When I get good news, my best friend gets at least one excited text, and often a phone call, too. And if I need a shoulder, I have a short list of ladies who are on-call.
I’ve come to realize, especially since becoming a mother, that the challenges of womanhood are bigger than my ability to deal with them alone. I love my husband, and he is truly my best friend, but he’s not a girlfriend.
After a weekend at the Behold Conference, I can’t help but think of Mary as Our Lady of Girlfriends. I feel this way after I spend any amount of time with groups of God-fearing, humor-loving, faith-sharing women.
Surely Mary felt the sting of her fellow women. She was an unmarried mother in a time and place when that was not accepted.
She said yes, not only to the glory, but to the pain and sorrow that she might not have even suspected. She said yes to the joy of holding a bundle of boy joy, and she said yes to the horror of watching him scorned throughout his life. She said yes to the wonder of motherhood, and she said yes to the trials of motherhood.
I can’t help but think, though I have no proof, that Mary must have had at least one good girlfriend. She must have had someone who encouraged her in prayer, who she could be “real” around, who appreciated the lady beyond the pedestal (because surely there was such a person).
There are many times when I find myself inspired by the women around me, and they inevitably make me think of Mary. She was probably the kind of friend you could always count on, the one who would sit up with you at night, would always pick up the phone (or lean over the fence, as the time period called for), would pray for you even when you hadn’t asked for it.
I picture Mary as the perfect girlfriend for a cup of tea or a glass of wine or even a mug of beer. I see her equally as well in jeans and a comfy sweatshirt, cigarette in hand, as I do in a lovely evening gown with sparkly earrings.
She’s one of us, after all, in all the best ways. And to top it off, she leads us closer to Christ!
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Love it! Have you read (like you need more books to read) “Our Lady of the Lost & Found’ by Diana Schoemperlein? (don’t quote me on the spelling of the author’s name) If you can get past the theological inaccuracies, it’s a wonderful novel of “what-if Mary showed up on a woman’s doorstep for a visit.”
Yes, I have read that, Barb! I posted a review, I think, a few years ago. Or maybe I forgot to. 🙂
Beautiful post. It was great to meet you, Sarah!
Fabulous to meet you, too, Jen!
May would have chilled at happy hour – for sure. It was so great to meet you and thank you for taking so much time to encourage me and most of all – make me laugh.
Glad I could make you laugh. I think. 🙂
Great post. Did you ever wonder why the Angel Gabriel mentioned to Mary at the Annunciation that Elizabeth was 6 mo pregnant? God is very practical and knows us women very well. He must have known Mary would go to her, that not only did Elizabeth need Mary’s help during her last trimester but also that Mary would need Elizabeth’s encouragement and practical wisdom and friendship as someone who was older but yet walking thru the same thing in her life. When I am sometimes tempted to be “supermom” and become frustrated when I can’t just seem to do it all I remember that God made women for community and that even Mary in her sinless state needed women friends. God created me to need my women friends, on purpose, by design. I think many times I am temped to see it as a personal character flaw instead of what it really is, God’s perfect handiwork.
It was great to meet you at Behold. See, I occasionally do come out of lurker status and make the time to post comments!
And Amy it was so good to meet you and chat with you and now to have a conversation here! What lovely thoughts on the Annunciation and Visitation! Thanks for delurking to share them, and many blessings to you!
Beautiful. Wish we’d had more time to chat. The weekend flew by, and I just didn’t feel like I had much time to connect with old and new friends. Did the photo of us turn out? If it did, can you email it to me? The only photo I took the entire weekend was of us, but my USB cable isn’t working for some reason.
God bless you!
I’ll send it, Kate, though it might be a day or two 🙂 Great to see you, too, and yes, it flew by! 🙂
Love it! Great advice for me on how to be a great girlfriend for others, too!
But I can’t believe you turned Mary into a smoker! Wait … After meeting you, yes I can! 😉
So…I am going to read all of that as a COMPLIMENT. It was great to meet you, Lisa! 🙂
Oh yes. TOTAL COMPLIMENT!
PS The idea of Mary as a smoker was actually my priest’s, and he credits his mother. 🙂
Hi! I am a reader from Singapore (:
Thanks for this post ! It helped me appreciate Mother Mary more (: